Setting goals is a great way to motivate yourself and work toward personal growth, but let’s be honest — not every goal sticks.
Whether it’s due to unrealistic expectations, lack of motivation, or life getting in the way, there are certain goals that many of us set, only to give up on quickly. Here are some of the most common, why they’re so hard to keep, and some ideas for more realistic changes.
1. Losing weight
Losing weight is one of the most common goals people set at the start of the year, but it’s also one of the hardest to stick with. The challenge often lies in the need for consistency, especially when results don’t show up as quickly as expected. Instead of aiming for drastic changes, focus on small, sustainable habits like eating more vegetables or moving your body daily, even if it’s just for 15 minutes.
2. Getting fit
While the idea of getting fit is appealing, the reality of carving out time for regular exercise, overcoming physical discomfort, or pushing through mental barriers can be daunting. Start with activities you enjoy. Whether it’s walking, swimming, or dancing, making exercise fun can help you stick with it longer.
3. Learning a new language
Learning a new language can feel exciting at first, but the complexity and time commitment often make people give up before reaching fluency. Break it down into manageable chunks, like learning 10 new words a day or practising speaking for 10 minutes. Regular, small steps will build momentum.
4. Quitting smoking
Quitting smoking is undoubtedly a major challenge. Even with strong determination, cravings and stress often lead people to relapse. Seek support through groups, apps, or therapy to increase your chances of success. Acknowledge each small victory — like going one day without a cigarette — to keep motivation high.
5. Saving money
It’s easy to start with the goal of saving money, but when unexpected expenses or temptations arise, sticking to a budget can be difficult. Automate your savings or set up a separate account for emergency funds. Small, consistent deposits will add up over time.
6. Waking up early
While many people aspire to become early risers, the comfort of the snooze button can easily derail this goal. Try going to bed just 15 minutes earlier each night to gradually shift your sleep schedule. Create a morning routine that excites you, so you’ll feel motivated to get out of bed.
7. Being more organised
Organisation often starts with enthusiasm, but it can quickly feel overwhelming, especially when life gets busy. Tackle one area at a time, whether it’s your desk, wardrobe, or digital files. Take it one step at a time, and celebrate small wins like clearing out a cluttered drawer.
8. Reading more books
While the intention to read more books is admirable, distractions like social media or TV can quickly get in the way. Set aside just 10–15 minutes of reading before bed or during lunch breaks. Audiobooks are also a great way to fit in more reading during commutes or while exercising.
9. Managing stress better
It’s easy to say you want to manage stress better, but the constant demands of life can quickly derail this goal. Start by incorporating mindfulness or deep-breathing exercises into your day. Even just five minutes of focused breathing can help calm your mind.
10. Drinking more water
We all know we should drink more water, but it’s easy to forget throughout the day. Carry a water bottle with you at all times to make it a habit. Set reminders on your phone to drink water, or try infusing it with fruit to make it more appealing.
11. Decluttering your home
Source: Unsplash Decluttering seems like a simple goal, but it can feel daunting when faced with a room full of stuff. Start small. Choose one area — like your closet or kitchen counter — to tackle each week. The key is consistency, not perfection.
12. Building a side hustle
Starting a side hustle is a popular goal, but it can be hard to balance with other commitments, leading to burnout or giving up. Set realistic goals and break your project into manageable tasks. Start small, and focus on one thing at a time rather than trying to do everything all at once.
13. Practising gratitude
Source: Unsplash While many people set the goal of practising gratitude, it can be easy to forget to reflect on the positive aspects of life, especially during stressful times. Try keeping a gratitude journal and writing down three things you’re thankful for each day. It only takes a minute but can help shift your perspective over time.
