Some people genuinely love their own company, but for others, being alone is the absolute worst.
They absolutely thrive on social energy, crave constant connection, and will do just about anything to avoid spending too much time on their own. While this can make them the life of the party sometimes, it can also lead to some pretty telling social behaviours. If you’ve ever noticed someone who seems to always need an audience, a group chat, or plans every night of the week, chances are they struggle with being alone. Of course, this tends to show up in their everyday behaviour in some pretty obvious ways.
1. They always want to make plans, even if there’s no real reason to.
Some people only organise plans for special occasions, but those who can’t stand being alone don’t need an excuse. They’ll suggest a random Tuesday dinner, a last-minute coffee meet-up, or even an impromptu “let’s go grocery shopping together” just to have company.
If they’re left without plans for too long, they get restless and start messaging everyone they know, looking for someone to hang out with. Silence and solitude feel unsettling, so they keep their schedule packed to avoid it.
2. They stay at social events way longer than everyone else.
While most people start winding down after a few hours, they’re still going strong. They’ll be the last person to leave the party, hanging around until the host starts cleaning up and yawning.
It’s not necessarily that they’re having the best time—it’s that the idea of going home to an empty space feels worse. They’d rather stretch out social time for as long as possible, even if the energy of the night is clearly dying down.
3. They invite themselves to things they weren’t technically invited to.
Most people wait for an official invite before showing up to plans, but someone who dreads being alone isn’t afraid to insert themselves. If they catch wind of a casual gathering, they’ll casually ask, “What time are we meeting?”—as if their presence was a given.
They don’t mean to be pushy, but they’d rather assume they’re welcome than risk missing out. For them, an uninvited plus-one situation is better than a quiet night at home.
4. They constantly check their phone, even in the middle of conversations.
You’d think that someone who loves being social would be fully engaged in the moment, but sometimes, they’re already looking for their next chance to socialise. They’ll be scrolling through messages, checking group chats, or making sure they haven’t missed a call.
It’s not that they don’t enjoy who they’re with; it’s just that they want to make sure they always have backup plans. Socialising is like a lifeline, and they don’t want to risk being cut off from it.
5. They struggle with quiet moments in conversation.
Small silences that feel natural to most people can be unbearable to someone who hates being alone. The moment a lull happens, they’ll rush to fill it—sometimes by oversharing, sometimes by jumping to a completely unrelated topic.
For them, silence isn’t just an awkward moment; it’s a reminder of solitude. Keeping the conversation going at all costs helps them avoid feeling disconnected, even for a second.
6. They jump from one group to another, never settling in one place
At social events, they’re constantly bouncing between different friend groups, making sure they’re part of every conversation. It’s not because they’re naturally restless; it’s because staying in one spot too long makes them feel like they might miss out on something better.
They crave the reassurance that they’re connected to as many people as possible. Having multiple social interactions in one night gives them the feeling of being fully immersed in company.
7. They find reasons to extend conversations long after they should end.
Most people wrap up conversations naturally, but someone who hates being alone will stretch them out for as long as possible. They’ll suddenly remember “one last thing” they need to say or drag out goodbyes with a hundred small comments.
It’s not about the topic; it’s about delaying the inevitable moment where they have to be by themselves. If they can keep the interaction going, they’ll do whatever it takes.
8. They constantly suggest after-plans.
If an event is winding down, they’ll be the first to suggest, “So… what’s next?” They don’t want the night to end, so they’ll throw out any idea that keeps people together—grabbing a late-night snack, going back to someone’s house, or even just walking around aimlessly.
For them, an evening without social plans feels incomplete. They’ll do whatever it takes to stretch out the company they have for just a little longer.
9. They hate running errands alone.
Even the simplest solo tasks—going to the bank, picking up groceries, or grabbing a coffee—are opportunities to bring someone along. They’ll invite a friend to “keep them company,” even if it’s a five-minute errand.
For them, everyday activities are less about the task and more about the shared experience. If they can turn a boring errand into a social moment, they absolutely will.
10. They send multiple texts if they don’t get an immediate response.
Source: Unsplash One unanswered message feels like a threat to their social security. They’ll follow up with a “?” or a “you there?” or even send a meme just to reignite the conversation. It’s not that they’re impatient; it’s that silence makes them feel disconnected. Keeping the digital conversation flowing helps them avoid the discomfort of feeling alone.
11. They start conversations with strangers just to have someone to talk to.
Whether it’s in a queue, at a bar, or waiting for the bus, they’ll strike up conversation with whoever is nearby. It’s not about making new friends; it’s about making sure they’re not alone in the moment. They’ll chat about the weather, make a passing joke, or find some way to engage. Any interaction is better than no interaction at all.
12. They prefer background noise at all times.
Source: Unsplash If they’re home alone, the TV is on, music is playing, or a podcast is running in the background. Silence is unbearable, so they keep the illusion of company even when no one is actually there. It’s more than just entertainment; it’s their way of filling the empty space. A quiet room reminds them too much of solitude, and that’s something they’ll avoid at all costs.
13. They always suggest group activities over one-on-one time.
Source: Unsplash While they love company, they’re more drawn to big, lively groups than intimate one-on-one time. A single friend might not provide enough distraction from their discomfort with being alone. Big groups allow them to bounce between conversations, keeping their social energy at full speed. The more people, the more distractions—and the less chance they’ll feel that creeping sense of solitude.
