Communication is key, they say, and the words you use can definitely affect the way people see you.
No one wants to be seen as a boring conversationalist, but some overused phrases you may be peppering into your chats probably aren’t doing you any favours in that department. Here are some things you might want to remove from your vocab — you might notice they make a big difference.
1. “At the end of the day” just feels tired.
You’ve heard it a million times, and let’s be honest—it’s overused. People say it to sound like they’re wrapping things up, but it often falls flat. Instead of using this empty filler, try being more direct with your point: “Ultimately” or “In the end” work better, or maybe just skip it altogether and cut to the chase.
2. “It is what it is” adds nothing to the conversation.
This phrase tends to end things on a dead note; it doesn’t offer insight or solutions. If you want to acknowledge something, do so in a way that moves the conversation forward, like, “Here’s how we could approach it,” or simply share your perspective.
3. “To be honest” can make you sound shady.
When you throw out “to be honest,” it might sound like you’re not always truthful. Instead, just say what you mean. If you feel like you need to stress your sincerity, go for “frankly” or just let your tone do the work.
4. “I can’t even” lacks substance and maturity.
While this might capture how overwhelmed you feel, it doesn’t say much. Instead of dropping a vague “I can’t even,” try explaining what’s really going on, like “I’m completely overwhelmed right now” or “I wasn’t expecting that at all.”
5. “Just saying” often comes across as passive-aggressive.
We’ve all heard this one used to soften criticism, but let’s be real—it rarely works. If you’ve got a point to make, say it confidently without the need for a disclaimer. Own your opinion, and leave out the “just saying.”
6. “No offence, but” usually means offence is coming.
If you feel the need to start with “no offence,” you probably know what’s about to come across as offensive. Either reword it to be kinder, or just skip it entirely if it’s not necessary to say.
7. Overusing “like” makes you sound unsure.
Filler words like “like” can weaken your message. If it’s a habit, try to slow down and embrace a few pauses instead. You’ll sound clearer and more confident without the extra “likes” peppered in.
8. “Literally” is often overused, and people notice.
It’s been overused so much that it’s often not literal at all. If you’re talking about something that isn’t actually “literally” happening, try words like “really” or “truly,” or just let your story do the talking.
9. “You know what I mean?” can be a conversational crutch.
Constantly asking if someone understands can make you seem unsure of yourself. Instead, trust that you’ve been clear, or ask for more specific feedback: “What do you think about that?” or “Does that idea make sense to you?”
10. “I’m not gonna lie” is unnecessary and potentially misleading.
Much like “to be honest,” this phrase suggests that you might be dishonest at other times. There’s no need for it—just say what’s on your mind and trust that your sincerity will come through.
11. “Does that make sense?” might undercut your confidence.
Asking this too often can make you seem like you’re doubting your own clarity. Instead, try “What’s your take on that?” or “Any questions about that?”—this invites discussion without implying that you weren’t clear.
12. “Long story short” rarely is.
People often say this before launching into a long-winded explanation. If you’re aiming for brevity, just get to the point without announcing it. Summarise the key details and trust that your listener will ask if they need more info.
13. “Needless to say” usually means you’re about to say it anyway.
If something truly doesn’t need to be said, skip it. If it does, just say it without the preamble. This phrase often adds nothing but filler.
14. “It’s not rocket science” can sound belittling.
Even if what you’re explaining seems simple, this phrase can come across as condescending. Instead, keep it positive by saying something like, “It’s actually pretty straightforward” if you want to reassure someone.
15. “With all due respect” can sound disrespectful.
This is often a precursor to criticism, and it rarely softens the blow. Instead of relying on this phrase, focus on expressing your disagreement in a constructive way. Be direct but respectful without the unnecessary lead-in.
16. “I’m just thinking out loud” makes you sound insecure.
If you’re brainstorming, go ahead and say that, but don’t undermine your ideas with “just thinking out loud.” Present your thoughts with confidence, even if they’re not fully formed—you can always refine them later.
