Relationships fail and women leave men all the time, but why?
What are the real reasons behind failed relationships and divorce? The truth is that it’s not always big stuff like infidelity that does couples in — sometimes there are deeper reasons women want out that you might not even consider. Here are just a few of them.
1. You’ve lost yourself.
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Women are attracted to men with their own identities, interests, and goals. If you’ve given up all the things that made you unique and have moulded your entire life around your partner, don’t be surprised when she gets bored. Having a relationship shouldn’t mean losing yourself. Women want a partner, not a lapdog. Find yourself again and bring that zest for life back to the relationship.
2. The emotional connection is gone.
Source: Unsplash Emotional intimacy is the lifeblood of a relationship. If deep, open communication has been replaced by shallow small talk, don’t act shocked when she starts to pull away. Women need to feel heard, understood, and emotionally connected. If you’re not meeting her emotional needs, she’ll find someone who will. Make the effort to really hear her and share yourself too. Don’t let that vital connection fade.
3. You’re stuck in boyhood.
Eventually, women want a mature, responsible partner — not a grown man-child they have to mother. If you’re still living like a frat boy while she’s ready to build a life together, the relationship is doomed. Women aren’t looking to raise a boyfriend. Grow up, get your act together, and start pulling your weight like an equal partner. Boyish charm only gets you so far.
4. The passion is gone.
Initially, your chemistry was electric. But somewhere along the way, the spark died. The bedroom went cold and the romance vanished. Never take passion for granted in a relationship. Women want to feel deeply desired by their partners. If you’ve let that fire burn out, she’ll go looking for heat elsewhere. Bring back the passion and never stop seducing your partner.
5. She’s not a priority.
Women don’t stick around when they feel like an afterthought in their partner’s life. If work, buddies, and hobbies always come first, she’ll soon be out the door. A woman wants to feel cherished and like she’s a top priority. If she senses that you’ll always put other things before her, she won’t wait around. Make her feel valued, and never make her compete for your time and attention.
6. The relationship is stagnant.
Relationships need growth and forward momentum. If you’re still stuck in the same routines and ruts after years together, she’ll get restless. Women want to feel like the relationship is going somewhere. If it seems like you’ll be doing the same-old, same-old forever, she’ll move on to something new. Bring a sense of progress and evolution to the relationship. Never stop learning and growing together.
7. There’s no trust.
Trust is the bedrock of any solid relationship. Once it’s broken, it’s incredibly hard to get back. If you’ve lied, cheated, or given her reason to doubt you, don’t be surprised when she walks away. Women need to feel secure and trust their partners completely. If that trust has been shattered, the foundation is crumbling. Be someone she can rely on and never betray her trust.
8. You don’t appreciate her.
Women put a lot into their relationships. If she feels taken for granted, unappreciated, and like her efforts go unnoticed, resentment will build. Soon, she’ll be gone. Let your partner know how much you value her and all she does. Don’t just assume she knows. Show appreciation through your words and actions. A woman who feels truly treasured will move mountains for you.
9. You can’t (or won’t) communicate.
Communication is key in relationships. If you bottle things up, give the silent treatment, or explode in anger, healthy communication erodes, and she’ll head for the hills. Women want partners who can express their thoughts and feelings openly and calmly. Learn to convey your needs clearly and listen to hers. Good communication takes constant work. Don’t let breakdowns drive her away.
10. You’re controlling.
Women flee men who are jealous, possessive and controlling. If you’re always monitoring her whereabouts, isolating her from friends and family, and flying into rages, expect her to run. Women need partners who trust them and give them space to be individuals. Trying to control her will only make her rebel. Let go, back off, and work on your own issues driving this toxic behaviour.
11. The future’s not aligned.
Women don’t stay where they don’t feel uniquely cherished. If she thinks you’d treat any woman the same way, she won’t stick around. Make her feel like she stands out, that you remember the little things about her, and that she’s unlike anyone else to you. Don’t dish out generic affection. Tailor it to her as an individual and make her feel one-of-a-kind.
13. She’s outgrown you.
Women with a zest for life are always evolving. If she’s growing and expanding while you’re stagnant, she’ll eventually outgrow the relationship. Never stop working on yourself and pushing the edges of your comfort zone. Be someone who can keep up with her and match her growth. Stay curious, engaged with life, and committed to personal development. Otherwise, she’ll outpace you.
14. You don’t respect her boundaries.
Women need to have their boundaries honoured in relationships. If you’re constantly crossing lines, pushing too hard, and ignoring her limits, she’ll head for the exit. Respect her need for privacy, space, and autonomy. The tighter you try to hold on, the more she’ll pull away. Give her breathing room and never trample her boundaries. She’ll respect you much more.
15. There’s no equality.
In this day and age, women expect equitable relationships. They don’t stick around when they’re doing the lion’s share of the housework, childcare, and emotional labour. If you’re not pulling equal weight, she’ll find someone who will be a true partner. Step up to the plate and don’t just ‘help’, take responsibility. She’s not your manager. Be proactive and work as a team.
16. You’ve become roommates.
When intimacy, passion, and romance fade, she’ll want out. Women don’t want a platonic roommate situation. If you’ve started treating her like a pal and stopped romancing her, the relationship is on life-support. Never stop dating and seducing her, no matter how long you’ve been together. Court her, surprise her, and make her feel like a goddess. Otherwise, she’ll go find her amorous knight elsewhere.
