We all have those phrases we hear so often that they start to lose their meaning, or worse, become downright irritating.
It’s time to call out these overused expressions and give them a well-deserved rest. Here are some things pretty much everyone is tired of hearing — hopefully you’re not saying any of them!
1. “It is what it is.”
This phrase might have started as a way to accept things we can’t change, but it’s morphed into a dismissive shrug that shuts down any further discussion. It can feel like a conversation stopper, implying there’s nothing more to be done or said. Instead of throwing your hands up in defeat, why not try to brainstorm solutions or simply offer a listening ear?
2. “Everything happens for a reason.”
While this can be a comforting sentiment in some situations, it can also feel dismissive and insensitive when someone is going through a difficult time. Saying it to someone who’s just lost their job or experienced a personal tragedy can come across as downplaying their pain. Sometimes, it’s better to simply offer a hug and a listening ear without trying to find a silver lining.
3. “No offence but…”
Ah, the classic preface to a potentially offensive statement. If you have to start a sentence with “no offence,” chances are what follows will be anything but inoffensive. It’s better to rephrase your thoughts in a way that doesn’t require a disclaimer, or simply keep them to yourself if they’re likely to hurt someone’s feelings.
4. “I’m so OCD about…”
Using a mental health condition as a synonym for being organised or tidy is not only insensitive, but also trivialises the struggles people with OCD face. It’s important to be mindful of the language we use and avoid throwing around terms that can be harmful or offensive.
5. “I literally can’t even.”
This hyperbolic phrase has become so overused that it’s lost all meaning. It’s supposed to convey a sense of being overwhelmed or shocked, but it often comes across as dramatic and insincere. Instead of relying on this cliché, try to find more descriptive and authentic ways to express your emotions.
6. “That’s so random.”
Calling something “random” has become a go-to response for anything unexpected or out of the ordinary. However, it can also be a lazy way to dismiss something interesting or unique. Instead of relying on this generic phrase, try to engage with the unexpected and find out why it caught your attention in the first place.
7. “I’m so busy.”
We all have busy lives, but constantly complaining about how busy you are can make you seem stressed, unapproachable, or even a bit self-important. Instead of using busyness as a badge of honour, try to focus on prioritising your time and setting boundaries so you can actually enjoy the things you’re busy doing.
8. “Let me ask you a question…”
This phrase often precedes a statement rather than an actual question. It can be confusing and frustrating for the listener, who might be expecting a genuine inquiry. Instead of using this filler phrase, simply state your point directly and clearly.
9. “I’m not racist, but…”
This disclaimer often precedes a racist remark or stereotype, making it seem like the speaker is trying to absolve themselves of responsibility. It’s better to be mindful of your words and avoid making generalisations about any particular group of people. Remember, intent doesn’t always negate impact.
10. “It’s all good.”
While this phrase can be a casual way to express agreement or acceptance, it can also feel dismissive when used in response to something serious or upsetting. If someone is sharing a problem or expressing their feelings, it’s more helpful to offer genuine empathy and support rather than brushing it off with a generic phrase like “it’s all good.”
11. “I’m so bad at this.”
We all have strengths and weaknesses, but constantly putting yourself down can be annoying and tiresome for people to listen to. Instead of focusing on your perceived shortcomings, try to embrace a growth mindset and see challenges as opportunities to learn and improve.
12. “I’m just being honest.”
Honesty is important, but it’s not an excuse to be hurtful or insensitive. There’s a difference between being truthful and being tactless. Consider the impact your words might have on other people before speaking, and choose your words carefully.
13. “You should smile more.”
Telling someone to smile is a form of unsolicited advice that can be perceived as condescending and sexist. It’s often directed at women and can make them feel like they need to constantly perform happiness. It’s better to let people express their emotions naturally, without pressure to conform to societal expectations.
14. “Calm down.”
Telling someone to calm down when they’re upset or angry can be invalidating and dismissive. It suggests that their emotions are not valid or justified. Instead of trying to silence their feelings, try to understand where they’re coming from and offer support.
15. “You’re lucky you have…”
Minimising someone’s struggles or blessings by comparing them to other people isn’t helpful or kind. Everyone’s experiences are unique, and what might seem like a small thing to you could be a big deal to someone else. Instead of making comparisons, try to focus on being present and supportive of the person in front of you.
16. “I’m not a morning person.”
While it’s true that some people are naturally more alert in the morning than others, using this phrase as an excuse for being grumpy, unproductive, or late can be frustrating for those around you. If you know you struggle with mornings, try to find ways to adjust your routine or make it easier for yourself to wake up and start your day on a positive note.
