While every wife wants to share everything with their husband, some things just remain unsaid.
It might be out of fear of hurting feelings, wanting to avoid drama, or simply wanting to maintain a peaceful atmosphere. But deep down, those unspoken words can hold a lot of weight. Here are just a few of the things wives will never say to their husbands but wish they could.
1. “It’s okay not to be perfect.”
We all have our flaws and imperfections. It’s okay to make mistakes and not always have it all together. We just want you to know that we love you for who you are, not who you pretend to be. So, please don’t feel pressured to be the perfect husband. Embrace your quirks and vulnerabilities because those are the things that make you uniquely you.
2. “I need your help around the house.”
Even if we don’t say it out loud, we really appreciate it when you take initiative and help out around the house. It’s not just about the chores, but it’s a way of showing that you care and are willing to share the load. So, please don’t wait for us to ask. Offer to do the dishes, take out the bins, or fold the laundry. It makes a huge difference.
3. “Please put your phone down sometimes.”
We understand that you’re busy and have a lot on your mind. But when we’re spending time together, it hurts when you’re constantly checking your phone. It makes us feel like we’re not as important as whatever’s happening on that screen. So, please put your phone down and be present with us. We miss your undivided attention.
4. “Remember the small things.”
Anniversaries, birthdays, and special occasions are important, but it’s the little things that really count. Remember the small details, like our favourite coffee order, the name of our best friend, or the way we like our toast in the morning. It shows that you pay attention and care about the little things that make us happy.
5. “Don’t be afraid to show your emotions.”
It’s okay to be vulnerable and express your emotions. We want to know what you’re feeling, whether it’s happiness, sadness, anger, or fear. When you share your emotions with us, it strengthens our connection and creates a safe space for us to share ours. Don’t bottle things up; let us in.
6. “Take an interest in the stuff I love sometimes.”
We all have things that we’re passionate about, whether it’s gardening, running, watching movies,etc. It means a lot to us when you show an interest in our hobbies and passions. Even if you don’t fully understand them, simply asking questions and listening to us talk about them can make us feel valued and appreciated.
7. “Surprise me sometimes.”
It doesn’t have to be anything grand or expensive. A small gift, a surprise date night, or even just a heartfelt note can go a long way in showing us that you’re thinking of us and want to make us feel special. It’s the thought that counts, and it shows that you’re willing to go the extra mile to bring a smile to our face.
8. “Be my biggest cheerleader.”
We all have dreams and aspirations, and it means the world to us when our husbands are our biggest cheerleaders. Support us in our pursuits, celebrate our successes, and offer a shoulder to lean on when we face setbacks. Knowing that you believe in us and are always in our corner gives us the strength and confidence to keep going.
9. “Initiate intimacy and affection.”
Physical touch is an important part of any relationship. It makes us feel loved, wanted, and appreciated. Sometimes, we crave your touch, but we might be hesitant to initiate it ourselves. So, don’t be afraid to reach out and hold our hand, give us a hug, or surprise us with a kiss. It reminds us of the spark between us.
10. “Make time for just us.”
Life can get busy with work, kids, and other responsibilities. But it’s important to carve out some time for just the two of us. Plan a date night, take a weekend getaway, or simply spend an evening at home without any distractions. These moments of connection are crucial for maintaining a strong and healthy marriage.
11. “Tell me I’m beautiful.”
Even if we don’t say it out loud, we want to know that you still find us attractive. A simple compliment on our appearance can boost our confidence and make us feel loved. It doesn’t have to be elaborate; just a genuine “You look beautiful today” can make our day.
12. “Be honest with me.”
Honesty is the foundation of any healthy relationship. Even if it’s difficult, we’d rather hear the truth than a sugar-coated lie. Be upfront about your feelings, concerns, and needs. Open communication fosters trust and understanding, which are essential for a happy marriage.
13. “Help me with the mental load.”
We often bear the brunt of the mental load in the household, remembering appointments, planning meals, keeping track of schedules, and managing household tasks. It can be overwhelming and exhausting. Sharing the mental load can significantly reduce our stress and make us feel more supported.
14. “Be willing to compromise.”
No two people agree on everything, and that’s okay. In a marriage, it’s important to be willing to compromise and find solutions that work for both of you. This might mean giving up a little bit of what you want to make your partner happy, or it might mean finding a middle ground that satisfies both of your needs.
15. “Apologise when you’re wrong.”
We all make mistakes. What matters is being able to acknowledge them and apologise sincerely. Don’t let your pride get in the way of making things right. A simple “I’m sorry” can go a long way in healing hurt feelings and restoring trust.
16. “Don’t take me for granted.”
Sometimes, we feel like we’re taken for granted. We put in a lot of effort to keep the household running smoothly, take care of the kids, and be a supportive partner. It hurts when our efforts go unnoticed or unappreciated. So, please take a moment to acknowledge and appreciate all that we do.
17. “Be my partner in crime.”
Marriage is a partnership, a team effort. We want to feel like we’re in this together, facing challenges and celebrating victories as a united front. Be willing to try new things with us, support our crazy ideas, and share in our adventures. When we know we have you by our side, we can conquer anything.
18. “Make me laugh.”
Laughter is the best medicine, and it’s also one of the best ways to keep the spark alive in a marriage. Don’t take life too seriously. Tell jokes, share funny stories, and be silly together. A shared sense of humour can bond you closer together and help you weather any storm.
19. “Be my safe haven.”
When the world feels overwhelming, we want to know that we can always count on you to be our safe haven. Be the person we can turn to when we need comfort, support, and unconditional love. Create a space where we feel safe to be ourselves, express our vulnerabilities, and know that we’ll be accepted without judgment.
20. “Tell me you love me.”
It might seem obvious, but sometimes we need to hear those three little words. Tell us you love us, not just on special occasions, but every day. Remind us that you’re still madly in love with us, even after all these years. It’s a simple gesture that can mean the world to us.
