I’ll be the first to hold my hand up and say I can be socially awkward sometimes.
That’s just part of life these days — a lot of people aren’t that great in people-heavy situations, and most of the time, it’s no big deal (or even occasionally charming). However, there are some things socially awkward people do that I try to make sure I never do because they’re incredibly uncomfortable for everyone involved. I’d advise you do the same!
1. You overshare personal details too soon.
We all love a good story, but revealing intimate details about your life to someone you barely know is extremely off-putting. It can create an imbalance in the conversation, making the other person feel uncomfortable or pressured to reciprocate with their own personal information. Gauge the level of intimacy appropriate for the relationship and build trust gradually.
2. You stare intensely without blinking.
Eye contact is important, but there’s a fine line between maintaining a connection and staring someone down like they’re a puzzle you’re trying to solve. Intense, unblinking eye contact can be intimidating and make people feel uneasy. Remember to blink naturally and look away occasionally to create a more comfortable atmosphere.
3. You laugh at inappropriate times.
Laughter is contagious, but laughing at the wrong times can be awkward and even offensive. If you find yourself chuckling during serious conversations or at someone else’s expense, it might be time to check in with your social awareness. Pay attention to the emotional tone of the situation and respond accordingly.
4. You talk about yourself non-stop.
It’s great to share your experiences and interests, but dominating the conversation with stories about yourself makes you come off as self-absorbed and inconsiderate. Remember to ask questions and show genuine interest in the other person’s life as well. Conversations should be a two-way street.
5. You stand too close to people.
Everyone has their own personal space bubble, and invading that space can make people feel uncomfortable and violated. Pay attention to social cues and maintain a respectful distance during conversations. A good rule of thumb is to stand about an arm’s length away from the person you’re talking to.
6. You constantly check your phone during conversations.
Source: Unsplash In today’s digital age, it’s easy to get distracted by our phones, but constantly checking notifications or scrolling through social media during conversations can make you seem uninterested and disrespectful. Put your phone away and give the person you’re with your undivided attention. It’s a simple gesture that goes a long way in building strong connections.
7. You ask overly personal questions too early in a relationship.
Source: Unsplash Curiosity is natural, but bombarding someone with personal questions about their income, relationship status, or health concerns before you’ve established a rapport can be invasive and off-putting. Let the relationship develop naturally and allow personal information to be shared gradually and organically.
8. You’re always negative or complaining.
No one likes to be around a constant downer. While it’s healthy to express your feelings, dwelling on negativity or complaining excessively can drain the energy from a room and make people uncomfortable. Strive to maintain a positive outlook and focus on solutions rather than problems. People are naturally drawn to those who radiate optimism and enthusiasm.
9. You try too hard to be funny.
A good sense of humour is a valuable social asset, but forcing jokes or trying too hard to be funny can backfire. It makes you look desperate for approval and create an awkward atmosphere. Let your humour flow naturally and don’t be afraid to embrace moments of silence or seriousness. Authenticity is often more charming than forced laughter.
10. You avoid eye contact.
While some cultures may have different norms around eye contact, in many Western societies, avoiding eye contact can be perceived as shifty or untrustworthy. In fact, you look disinterested or even deceitful. Practise making and maintaining eye contact during conversations to convey confidence and sincerity.
11. You overstep physical boundaries.
Touching someone without their consent, even if it’s meant to be friendly, can be invasive and uncomfortable. Pay attention to social cues and respect people’s personal space. A good rule of thumb is to ask before initiating any physical contact, even a handshake or a hug.
12. You talk loudly in quiet places.
Being mindful of your surroundings is an important part of social etiquette. Talking loudly in libraries, museums, or other quiet spaces can disrupt people and make you seem inconsiderate. Adjust your volume to match the environment and show respect for those around you.
13. You monopolise shared spaces.
Source: Unsplash Whether it’s taking up too much room on public transport, spreading your belongings across a table at a coffee shop, or hogging the gym equipment, monopolising shared spaces can be frustrating for people. Be considerate of your surroundings and try to share resources equitably. A little consideration goes a long way in creating a positive social environment.
14. You interrupt or talk over people constantly.
Source: Unsplash Interrupting people all the time is rude and disrespectful. It signals that you don’t value their opinions or that you’re more interested in hearing yourself talk. Listen more and let people finish their thoughts before jumping in with your own.
15. You make inappropriate jokes or comments.
Source: Unsplash Humour is a great way to connect with people, but it’s important to consider your audience and the context. Avoid offensive jokes or comments that could make people feel uncomfortable or excluded. A good rule of thumb is to err on the side of caution and keep your humour light and inclusive.
