You’d think having people over would be pretty simple, but you’d be surprised how many people struggle with hosting.
Even if it’s just a casual hangout with friends rather than a party or official event, it can be hard to know how to make sure your guests feel comfy and happy in your living space. If you’re new to welcoming people into your home and not sure the best way to do it, here are some things you can say to ensure everyone feels content and like you actually want them there.
1. “Make yourself at home.”
Nothing puts a guest at ease faster than letting them know they don’t have to be on their best behaviour. Giving them permission to relax, kick off their shoes, or grab a drink makes your home feel welcoming rather than formal. People often feel like they have to be polite and wait to be offered things, so letting them know they can help themselves eliminates any awkwardness. The more comfortable they feel, the better the visit will be.
2. “Do you want anything to eat or drink?”
It’s a simple question, but it instantly makes a guest feel cared for. Even if they say no, they’ll appreciate the offer. It also removes any hesitation they might have about asking for something themselves. If you’re hosting for a longer period, offering a variety of options (tea, coffee, water, snacks) makes things even easier. A well-fed and well-hydrated guest is a happy one.
3. “Let me know if you need anything.”
People don’t always feel comfortable asking for things, especially in someone else’s home. A simple reminder that they’re welcome to ask for anything they need can make them feel much more at ease. Whether it’s an extra pillow, a charger, or directions to the bathroom, this small gesture reassures them that they’re not being a burden.
4. “You don’t have to entertain me.”
Sometimes, friends visit because they need a break, not because they want a packed social schedule. Letting them know that they don’t have to be “on” or constantly talking can be a huge relief. Giving them the space to just sit in comfortable silence, scroll their phone, or take a nap without guilt can make your home feel like a true escape.
5. “Stay as long as you like.”
Few things feel more welcoming than knowing you don’t have to rush out the door. If you genuinely have no time constraints, letting your friend know they can take their time removes any unspoken pressure. Even if they can’t stay long, hearing that they’re not being hurried along will make their visit more enjoyable.
6. “It’s so good to see you.”
People like to feel wanted, and this simple sentence lets your friend know you genuinely value their company. Greeting them with warmth and care can set the tone for the entire visit. Even if it’s been a while since you’ve seen each other, reminding them how much you appreciate their presence makes a difference.
7. “What do you feel like doing?”
Instead of planning everything yourself, giving your friend a say in how they want to spend the time together makes them feel considered. Some people want to chat, while others prefer an activity. By asking, you avoid assuming what they’d enjoy most. This is especially useful if they’re staying for a longer visit and you want to make sure they’re getting the experience they want.
8. “No pressure, we can do whatever.”
Sometimes, plans change or energy levels aren’t as high as expected. Letting your friend know they don’t have to commit to anything takes the stress out of the visit. Whether you had a movie night planned or were thinking of heading out, reminding them that plans are flexible makes for a more relaxed and enjoyable time together.
9. “You can totally be yourself here.”
People often feel the need to be extra polite or “on their best behaviour” when they visit someone’s home. Reminding your friend that they don’t have to put on a front can help them relax. Whether that means letting them lounge around in comfy clothes, vent about their day, or be their silly, unfiltered self, giving them permission to be at ease makes a big difference.
10. “I saved you a seat.”
This small but thoughtful statement can make a person feel instantly included. Whether it’s at the dining table, on the sofa, or in a group setting, saving someone a seat is a subtle way of saying, “You belong here.” It’s especially meaningful in social situations where they might not know everyone else. A reserved spot takes away the stress of figuring out where to sit.
11. “You’re welcome anytime.”
Sometimes, people need to hear that they don’t need an official invite to come over. Letting a friend know they’re always welcome encourages them to visit more often without worrying about inconveniencing you. Even if you can’t always host at a moment’s notice, making it clear that you enjoy their company helps build a more open, easy-going friendship.
12. “I love that you’re here.”
It’s one thing to say, “Good to see you,” but expressing genuine joy about their presence makes a visit feel special. Sometimes, people need that little reminder that they bring happiness just by being around. It’s a simple way to make them feel valued, especially if they’ve made an effort to visit from far away or take time out of their schedule.
13. “I really needed this.”
Friendship is a two-way street, and letting them know that their visit means something to *you* makes them feel appreciated. People love knowing that they add value to someone’s life. If you’ve had a rough week or just missed them, expressing gratitude for their company makes them feel like their presence truly matters.
14. “Let’s do this again soon.”
Source: Unsplash Ending the visit on a positive note makes your friend feel wanted, rather than like they were just another guest passing through. Even if you don’t know when you’ll next meet up, saying this keeps the door open for more visits and makes them feel like their time with you was just as meaningful to you as it was to them.
15. “You don’t need to rush off.”
Source: Unsplash If your friend seems like they’re hesitating about whether to stay a bit longer, this lets them know they’re not overstaying their welcome. Sometimes, people feel like they should leave even if they don’t want to, just to be polite. Reassuring them that they can stay as long as they like takes that pressure away and allows them to enjoy the visit fully.
