No one’s perfect, and we’ve all done things we’re not proud of at times.
However, accountability is a must, and when you mess up, it’s important to own up to it and make things right. Sure, you shouldn’t beat yourself up for making minor mistakes, but if you’re guilty of any of these behaviours, you should definitely feel bad about it — and make sure you don’t repeat them ever again.
1. Ignoring someone mid-conversation
Scrolling through your phone while someone’s chatting to you? It’s rude, plain and simple. It gives the impression that whatever’s on your screen matters more than the person in front of you. Giving someone your full attention shows respect, strengthens your connection, and makes the whole interaction far more worthwhile.
2. Leaving a mess for other people to sort out
Dumping your dirty dishes in the sink or walking away from a spill isn’t just lazy—it’s inconsiderate. Nobody wants to deal with someone else’s mess. Cleaning up after yourself doesn’t take long, and it keeps shared spaces pleasant for everyone. Plus, it’s just common courtesy.
3. Cancelling plans last minute without a good reason
We’ve all had to cancel plans before, but doing it without a solid excuse—especially at the eleventh hour—is frustrating for the other person. It can make them feel like they’re not important to you. If something genuinely comes up, communicate clearly and apologise properly. A bit of notice can go a long way.
4. Using the last of something and not replacing it
Whether it’s the milk, the toilet roll, or the last tea bag, leaving it empty without restocking is selfish. It’s a small gesture, but taking a moment to replace what you’ve used makes life easier for everyone else. Thoughtfulness costs nothing.
5. Talking over people
Interrupting someone isn’t just bad manners—it shuts them down. When you let someone finish what they’re saying, it shows you value their input. Conversations feel so much more meaningful when they’re a two-way street. Give people the same respect you’d expect for yourself.
6. Ghosting someone
Cutting someone off without explanation might feel easier in the moment, but it leaves the other person confused and hurt. Whether it’s a friend or someone you were dating, a quick message to explain goes a long way. Being upfront shows respect, even if the truth is uncomfortable.
7. Taking credit for someone else’s work
Claiming someone else’s effort as your own is just not on. It destroys trust and damages relationships. Giving credit where it’s due makes you a better colleague or friend and shows you’re confident enough to share the praise.
8. Being rude to service workers
Snapping at a shop assistant or being short with a waiter when something goes wrong says more about you than it does about them. A bit of kindness can brighten their day—and yours too. Politeness costs nothing and often gets you better results.
9. Complaining but not doing anything about it
We all need a moan sometimes, but constant griping without any action is draining for everyone around you. If something’s bothering you, try to fix it—or at least take steps in that direction. People appreciate those who look for solutions rather than just pointing out problems.
10. Breaking promises you didn’t need to make
Saying “yes” to something you can’t commit to might seem harmless at the time, but letting people down eats away at trust. It’s better to be honest about what you can and can’t do. People will appreciate your honesty more than empty promises.
11. Making jokes at someone else’s expense
A bit of banter is fine, but when the punchline is someone else’s embarrassment, it’s not funny. Humour should bring people together, not make someone feel small. Stick to jokes that include rather than exclude—it’s a much better vibe.
12. Sharing someone’s private information
Telling someone else’s secrets, even casually, is a huge breach of trust. It’s not your information to share, and doing so can seriously damage relationships. Keep personal details to yourself unless you’ve been told otherwise—it shows respect and reliability.
13. Ignoring boundaries people have set
When someone sets a boundary, whether it’s emotional, physical, or social, ignoring it is disrespectful. Respecting what someone’s comfortable with helps build trust and mutual understanding. It’s not difficult—just listen and act accordingly.
14. Letting jealousy take over
Feeling jealous is normal, but letting it dictate your actions isn’t fair on anyone. Whether it’s passive-aggressive comments or outright sabotage, jealousy damages relationships and reflects badly on you. Take a step back, acknowledge the feeling, and think before you act.
