Having a big family is a blessing in many ways, but it can also be a curse when it comes to trying to find some time to yourself.
Everyone needs a bit of time alone to unwind and recharge, but when you’re constantly surrounded by/getting texts and calls from siblings, parents, aunties, cousins, you name it, it can become a bit overwhelming. If you still live with any of your family members, here’s how to carve out a bit of space just for you.
1. Wake up before everyone else.
Set your alarm a bit earlier than usual because those quiet morning hours can be blissful. Use this time to enjoy a coffee or a cup of tea in peace, read a book, or even just enjoy the silence before the day begins. Even 15 minutes can make a huge difference to your mental state.
2. Volunteer for grocery runs.
Source: Unsplash Offering to do the shopping happens to be helpful, yes, but also it’s an opportunity for some much-needed alone time. Take your time browsing the aisles, listen to a podcast, or enjoy a quiet drive. It’s a win-win: you’re contributing to the household whilst getting some space from your family.
3. Create your own cosy little space to read in.
Find a quiet corner of the house and make it your own. Add a comfy chair, a small bookshelf, and maybe a lamp. Let your family know that when you’re in your nook, you’re having some ‘you’ time. It’s amazing how a designated space can help other people respect your need for space. And hey, if you’re not much of a reader, you can do any of your hobbies there — writing, crafts, you name it.
4. Take longer showers.
Source: Unsplash The bathroom is often the only room in the house with a lock, so take advantage of this by enjoying slightly longer showers. Use this time to clear your head, practise some deep breathing, or simply enjoy the peace. Just be mindful of the water bill (and other people’s need for the loo).
5. Go for solo walks.
A quick walk around the block or up to the shops can do wonders for your mental health. It’s a chance to get some fresh air, clear your head, and enjoy some quiet time. Plus, the exercise is good for you. Make it a daily habit if you can.
6. Use headphones strategically.
Invest in a good pair of noise-cancelling headphones. Even if you’re not listening to anything, wearing them can send the message to your family members that you’re not available for chat. It’s a polite way to create a bubble of calm in a busy household.
7. Become the family’s night owl.
If you’re a night person, use the late hours to your advantage. Once everyone’s gone to bed, enjoy the quiet of the house. Watch your favourite show, pursue a hobby, or simply relax. Just be sure not to disrupt your sleep schedule too much.
8. Volunteer for solo chores.
Offer to do tasks that typically require one person, like mowing the lawn or organising the garage. These jobs often come with built-in alone time. Put on some music or a podcast and enjoy the peace while being productive.
9. Create a ‘do not disturb’ signal.
Establish a system with your family to indicate when you need some space. It could be a special sign on your door, a coloured wristband you wear, or even a funny hat. Make sure everyone understands and respects the signal. It’s a fun way to communicate your needs without causing offence.
10. Make use of your car.
If you have access to a car, use it as a mobile sanctuary. Turn up early to appointments and sit in the car for a while, or take the scenic route home after work. It’s a great place to enjoy some quiet time or listen to your favourite music undisturbed.
11. Schedule ‘me time’ on the family calendar.
Add your alone time to the family schedule, just like any other important event. Block out specific hours for yourself. This makes your need for alone time official and helps other people plan around it. It’s not selfish; it’s self-care.
12. Utilise the garden or balcony.
If you have outdoor space, make the most of it. Set up a comfortable spot where you can relax. Early mornings or late evenings can be particularly peaceful times to enjoy the fresh air (though obviously this will get harder over the winter months). Even a small balcony can become a private oasis with a bit of creativity.
13. Take up a solo hobby.
Find an activity that’s just for you, whether it’s painting, writing, or solving crossword puzzles. Not only will this give you a reason to try to find some alone time, but it’ll also provide a sense of personal fulfilment. Your family might even start to associate this activity with your need for space.
