Everyone wants to be respected, but certain behaviours can earn you the opposite from everyone around you.
If you have any of these 18 habits, you might want to break them as soon as possible. Cutting these things out of your life will automatically make people hold you in higher regard.
1. You overshare on social media.
Source: Unsplash Given how much everyone seems to be into digital exhibitionism, this is an easy trap to fall into. Constantly broadcasting every detail of your life can make you seem desperate for attention and like you lack boundaries. Create a sense of mystery and let people discover your depth through real-life interactions, not your online persona.
2. You’re always glued to your phone.
Source: Unsplash Constantly checking your phone during conversations or social gatherings can make you seem disengaged and uninterested in the people around you. Be present in the moment and give your undivided attention to the people you’re with. Your phone can wait.
3. You subscribe to “cancel culture.”
While it’s important to stand up for what you believe in, jumping on the bandwagon of “cancel culture” can make you seem intolerant and quick to judge. Embrace nuance and open dialogue, and remember that everyone makes mistakes. Most things really aren’t that deep.
4. You use filler words all the time.
“Um,” “like,” “you know” – these filler words can clutter your speech and make you seem unsure of yourself. They’re not the end of the world, but you’ll come off way better if you practise speaking clearly and concisely.
5. You’re always late.
If everyone else can turn up on time, so can you. It doesn’t matter if “traffic was bad,” you lost your keys, or whatever other excuse you have. Leave the house early if you think there might be delays — it’s disrespectful otherwise. People have better things to do than wait around for you.
6. You complain constantly.
Everyone loves a good vent sesh, but constantly complaining can make you seem negative and draining to be around. Focus on the good things in your life and fixes for your problems, rather than drowning in your own pity party.
7. You’re addicted to drama.
Constantly stirring up conflict or getting involved in other people’s drama can make you seem immature and unreliable. You’re not in school anymore, so grow up a bit and stop living like you’re in an episode of “EastEnders”.
8. You don’t practise good personal hygiene.
This doesn’t mean you need fancy clothes or a face full of make-up. However, you should shower, brush or comb your hair, and wear deodorant. It’s completely disrespectful of everyone around you to turn up unkempt.
9. You ghost people.
I’s tempting to simply disappear when a relationship or interaction becomes uncomfortable, but ghosting is a cowardly and disrespectful way to let someone know you’re no longer interested. Be upfront and honest, even if it’s awkward.
10. You’re always trying to “one-up” everyone.
Source: Unsplash Constantly trying to outdo people or brag about your accomplishments can make you seem insecure and competitive. It’s great to be proud of yourself, but you don’t have to put everyone else down in the process. That just makes you look incredibly insecure.
11. You’re addicted to your phone during meals.
Source: Unsplash Scrolling through your phone during meals, whether you’re alone or with other people, makes you seem not only addicted to technology, but also a bit sad, not to mention disengaged from the world around you. Put your phone away and join the land of the living.
12. You spread negativity online.
The internet can be a breeding ground for negativity, but constantly sharing inflammatory content or engaging in online arguments makes you look like an angry troll. Use your online presence to spread positivity and make people happy.
13. You lack basic manners.
Saying “please” and “thank you,” holding the door open for people, and offering to help are simple gestures that go a long way in showing respect and consideration. Don’t underestimate the power of good manners.
14. You’re always trying to be the centre of attention.
While it’s great to be confident and outgoing, constantly hogging the spotlight makes you look self-centred and attention-seeking. Give other people a chance to shine and show a genuine interest in their lives. That’s what will really earn you respect.
15. You make promises you can’t keep.
If you don’t think you’re going to be able to do something/go somewhere/help in some way, don’t say you will. If people think they can’t rely on you, they’re certainly not going to respect you.
16. You’re afraid to say “no.”
Constantly saying “yes” to every request or invitation can leave you feeling overwhelmed and resentful. Learn to set boundaries and prioritise your own needs. This level of assertiveness and self-care is admirable, for sure.
17. You’re always trying to fit in.
Trying too hard to fit in makes you look inauthentic and insecure, and that’s not what you want. Embrace your individuality and let your unique personality shine through. People will appreciate that so much more.
18. You don’t take care of your mental health.
Neglecting your mental health can impact every aspect of your life, including your relationships and how other people see you. Look after yourself and get help from a professional if you need it.
