How To Embrace Your Ordinary Self (You're Not Special And That's Okay)

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Society is always telling us to be extraordinary, to stand out from the crowd, to be the best version of ourselves.

But what if, in all the hustle for greatness, we’ve lost sight of something essential – the beauty of being ordinary? It’s not about settling for mediocrity, but rather, embracing the perfectly imperfect human you are. It’s about finding contentment and joy in your everyday life, without the pressure of constant striving for something more.

1. Ditch staring at social media and falling into the comparison game.

In the age of social media, it’s easy to fall into the trap of comparing your behind-the-scenes to everyone else’s highlight reel. But remember, those curated online personas rarely reflect reality. Everyone has struggles, insecurities, and ordinary moments. So, step away from the screen, and focus on your own unique journey. You’re not in competition with anyone but yourself.

2. Embrace your all of your imperfections.

Nobody’s perfect, and that’s okay! We all have flaws, quirks, and weird habits. Instead of trying to hide or fix them, learn to love and accept them as part of what makes you, well, you. Remember, it’s those imperfections that make you interesting, relatable, and authentic. So, own your quirks, and let your true self shine through.

3. Find joy in the same old, same old.

Life isn’t always about grand adventures and extraordinary achievements. Sometimes, it’s the simple things that bring the most joy. Put the kettle on and enjoy a nice cuppa, lose yourself in a good book, or simply enjoy the company of loved ones. Find pleasure in the everyday moments, and you’ll discover a whole new level of contentment.

4. Celebrate some of your small wins.

We often get caught up in chasing big goals and forget to appreciate the little victories along the way. Did you make a delicious meal? Finish a challenging task at work? Make someone smile? These small wins are worth celebrating. Acknowledging your accomplishments, no matter how small, can boost your confidence and motivation.

5. Stop striving for constant self-improvement.

While personal growth is important, it’s also essential to accept and appreciate where you are right now. You don’t need to be constantly striving for the next level or fixing every perceived flaw. Allow yourself to simply be, to enjoy the present moment, and to appreciate the journey, not just the destination.

6. Stop trying to be someone you’re not.

Ever caught yourself pretending to love kombucha just because everyone else seems to? Or nodding along when someone raves about a band you secretly think is awful? It’s exhausting trying to fit a mould that just isn’t you. Embrace your own unique tastes and preferences, even if they’re not the most popular. You’ll be happier and attract people who genuinely vibe with the real you.

7. Your messiness is a sign of life.

Is your flat a constant whirlwind of clothes, books, and random knick-knacks? Don’t beat yourself up about it! A little mess can be a sign of a life well-lived, full of hobbies, projects, and creative endeavours. It shows you’re not afraid to get your hands dirty and make something of your life. So, next time someone raises an eyebrow at your overflowing bookshelf, just smile and say, “Organised chaos, baby!”

8. It’s okay to be the sidekick, not the main character.

We’re constantly bombarded with stories of exceptional people achieving extraordinary things. But guess what? Most of us aren’t destined for the history books. And that’s perfectly fine! You don’t have to be the CEO, the Olympic athlete, or the groundbreaking artist to lead a fulfilling life. Embrace your role as a supportive friend, a loving partner, or a reliable colleague. Your contributions matter, even if they don’t make headlines.

9. Own your average skills and interests.

Maybe you’re not a master chef, a gifted musician, or a tech geek. But you know what? You’re probably pretty good at something – whether it’s making people laugh, fixing things around the house, or remembering everyone’s birthdays. Embrace those “average” skills and interests, and don’t underestimate their value. Remember, even the most ordinary talents can bring joy and meaning to your life and the lives of others.

10. Find your people, the ones who appreciate you for who you are.

Surround yourself with people who love you for your quirks, your flaws, and your everyday awesomeness. These are the friends who will laugh with you over silly jokes, support you through tough times, and celebrate your ordinary victories with genuine enthusiasm. They’re the ones who make you feel seen, heard, and appreciated for being exactly who you are. And let’s be honest, isn’t that what truly matters?