If someone in your life gets a bit chaotic or out of hand when they’ve had a few too many to drink, you know how hard it can be to deal with them.
Whether they suddenly develop anger issues, start acting out in ways that are wild or a bit unhinged, or engage in risky behaviours they’d never consider when they’re sober, you’ll want to calm them down as quickly as possible. Here’s how to avoid drama, help them keep it together, and get through the night in one piece.
1. Stay calm yourself.
If they’re spiralling or getting emotional, the last thing they need is you panicking too. Keep your cool and remember that your calmness can help ground them. Take a deep breath and approach them with patience—it’ll go a long way in keeping things under control.
2. Speak in a soft, steady tone.
When someone’s drunk and wound up, yelling or sounding frustrated won’t help. Speak gently and clearly, like you’re reassuring a stressed-out friend (because you are). A calm voice can help them feel safe and prevent things from escalating further.
3. Remove them from loud or overwhelming environments.
Too much noise or a crowded room can make a drunk person even more agitated. If you can, take them to a quieter spot where they can chill. A little peace and quiet can do wonders to bring their mood back to baseline.
4. Avoid arguing or reasoning with them.
Drunk logic isn’t logic, and trying to win an argument with someone who’s had too much is like trying to teach a cat to swim. Keep conversations simple, avoid debates, and save the heavy talks for when they’re sober. It’ll save you both a headache.
5. Acknowledge their feelings without feeding the drama.
If they’re upset, listen and nod without diving into the drama. Say things like, “I hear you” or “It’s okay, I’m here.” You don’t have to agree with their drunken complaints—just let them feel heard. It’s often enough to help them settle down.
6. Offer water or a non-alcoholic drink.
A little hydration can go a long way in helping them feel more stable. Hand them a glass of water or a soft drink—sometimes just holding something helps them refocus. Don’t push too hard if they resist, but keep gently encouraging sips here and there.
7. Get them to sit or lie down.
If they’re pacing or wobbling, encourage them to sit down or, better yet, lie somewhere comfortable. It’s not just about calming them—it’s also about avoiding accidents. Bonus points if you can get them to relax with a blanket and a pillow.
8. Keep their energy in check.
Some drunk people get a sudden burst of energy (and bad ideas). If they’re bouncing around, try to channel that energy into something harmless, like a simple distraction. Play music, suggest a funny video, or give them something to focus on that doesn’t involve dancing on tables.
9. Avoid bringing up stressful topics.
This isn’t the time to talk about their ex, unpaid bills, or anything remotely upsetting. Keep the vibe light and steer conversations toward safer topics. A little humour can also help—just don’t overdo it if they’re not in the mood for jokes.
10. Watch for signs they’re feeling unwell.
Drinking too much can make people feel sick, so keep an eye out for signs they’re about to throw up or faint. If they say they feel unwell, take it seriously. Help them find a bathroom or a safe place to rest and stay close by until they’re feeling better.
11. Reassure them if they’re anxious or paranoid.
Alcohol can make emotions run wild, and some people get extra anxious or even paranoid when they drink. Let them know they’re safe and that everything’s okay. Simple statements like “I’ve got you” or “You’re not alone” can help them feel less on edge.
12. Don’t let them drink more.
It might seem obvious, but cutting them off gently is important. If they’re reaching for another drink, redirect them to water or a snack instead. Saying, “Let’s take a break for now” often works better than outright saying “no,” which could make them defensive.
13. Keep other people from making things worse.
Sometimes other people add fuel to the fire by teasing, arguing, or egging the drunk person on. Step in and defuse the situation by steering the drunk person away or asking everyone to back off. It’s all about keeping the environment as chill as possible.
14. Stay with them until they’re stable.
Once they’re calmer, make sure they’re safe before you step away. If they’re heading to bed or the sofa, check they have water nearby and someone to look after them if they’re still unsteady. Being a steady presence reassures them and keeps things from escalating again.
