By I’m the first one to admit that I’m a bit nosy and often want to know what people are up to.
However, there’s a difference between basic human curiosity and being totally obsessed with other people’s lives. If you find yourself focusing more on everyone else than your own life, here’s how to change things (and you really should).
1. Spend less time on social media.
Source: Unsplash Social media can be a highlight reel of everyone else’s “best life,” which can fuel those feelings of comparison and inadequacy. It’s perfectly fine to set limits on your scrolling time, unfollow accounts that make you feel bad, or even take a complete social media detox. Remember, real life is happening offline.
2. Focus on your own goals and aspirations.
Instead of getting caught up in what everyone else is achieving, shift your focus to your own dreams and aspirations. What do you want to accomplish? What makes you feel fulfilled and happy? Set your own goals and create a plan to achieve them. When you’re focused on your own path, you’ll have less time and energy to worry about what other people are doing.
3. Be grateful for what you have.
It’s easy to get caught up in what you lack, but shifting your focus to what you do have can be a powerful antidote to envy and comparison. Take time each day to appreciate the good things in your life, big and small. This gratitude practice can help you cultivate a sense of contentment and reduce those feelings of “keeping up with the Joneses.”
4. Remind yourself that everyone’s journey is different.
We all have our own unique paths, timelines, and challenges. Comparing your journey to someone else’s is like comparing apples and oranges — it’s just not fair. Focus on your own progress and celebrate your own wins, no matter how small they may seem. Remember, it’s not a race.
5. Challenge your negative thoughts and assumptions.
Ask yourself if those thoughts are helpful or productive. Are you making assumptions about their lives or motivations? Are you comparing your worst moments to their highlight reels? Challenge those negative thoughts and reframe them in a more positive and realistic light.
6. Practise self-compassion and acceptance.
Be kind to yourself, and accept that you’re not perfect. We all have strengths and weaknesses, and it’s okay to not be good at everything. Focus on your own unique talents and qualities, and don’t beat yourself up for not being someone you’re not.
7. Spend time with people who inspire and encourage you.
Surround yourself with positive influences who encourage your growth. Avoid those who constantly brag or make you feel inadequate. Choose friends and relationships that nourish your soul and make you feel good about yourself.
8. Find healthy ways to manage stress and anxiety.
Stress and anxiety can often fuel those obsessive thoughts about other people. Find healthy coping mechanisms that work for you, such as exercise, meditation, journaling, or spending time in nature. These practices can help you calm your mind and focus on the present moment.
9. Focus on your own strengths and accomplishments.
Make a list of your achievements, skills, and qualities that you’re proud of. Remind yourself of your unique talents and contributions to the world. Celebrate your wins, no matter how big or small. This can help boost your self-esteem and shift your focus away from what everyone else is doing.
10. Set boundaries with social media and technology.
If you find yourself constantly checking social media or comparing yourself to people online, it might be time to set some boundaries. Limit your screen time, unfollow accounts that trigger negative emotions, and prioritise real-life interactions and experiences.
11. Talk to a therapist if your obsession is affecting your mental health.
If your thoughts and feelings about other people are stressing you out or interfering with your daily life, don’t hesitate to talk to a professional. A therapist or counsellor can provide support, guidance, and coping mechanisms to help you manage your anxiety and develop a healthier relationship with yourself and other people.
12. Live in the present moment and appreciate the beauty of your own life.
The present moment is all we truly have. Instead of getting caught up in what other people are doing or what might have been, focus on the here and now. Appreciate the beauty of your own life, the people you love, the experiences you’ve had, and the opportunities that lie ahead. Mindfulness and gratitude can be powerful tools for overcoming obsession and finding contentment in the present.
