I don’t know anyone who doesn’t experience occasional moments of stress and anxiety, but for some people, those feelings are pretty much constant.
Those people tend to be pretty highly strung — tense, overly sensitive, and always on edge — and it affects everything in their lives, from their relationships to their health. Does this sound like you? If you relate to any of these things, you might fall into this category.
1. You can’t sit still without fidgeting.
If you’re constantly tapping your foot, drumming your fingers, or fiddling with objects, it might be a sign you’re highly strung. This restlessness often stems from pent-up nervous energy that’s looking for an outlet. Try channelling this energy into more productive activities, like exercise or creative pursuits, to help manage your fidgety tendencies.
2. Small changes to your routine throw you into a tailspin.
Does an unexpected delay or a last-minute plan change send you into a panic? Highly strung people often crave structure and predictability. When things don’t go according to plan, it can feel overwhelming. Practise flexibility by intentionally making small changes to your routine. Start small, like taking a different route to work, to build your adaptability muscles.
3. You’re always anticipating the worst-case scenario.
If your mind constantly jumps to the most catastrophic outcome in any situation, you might be highly strung. This tendency to catastrophize can be exhausting and anxiety-inducing. Try to challenge these thoughts by asking yourself, “What’s the most likely outcome?” and “How would I cope if the worst did happen?” This can help put things into perspective.
4. You have trouble falling asleep because your mind won’t switch off.
Lying in bed with thoughts racing through your head is a common experience for highly strung people. Your mind might replay the day’s events or worry about tomorrow’s tasks. Establish a calming bedtime routine to signal to your brain that it’s time to wind down. This could include reading a book, doing some gentle stretches, or practising meditation.
5. You’re overly sensitive to criticism, even when it’s constructive.
Do you immediately become hurt or defensive when someone gives you feedback, even if it’s meant to be helpful? Highly strung people often take criticism very personally. Try to view feedback as an opportunity for growth rather than an attack on your character. Take a deep breath before responding, and remember that constructive criticism is about your actions, not your worth as a person.
6. You don’t know how to delegate.
If you struggle to let go of control and trust people to handle tasks, it could be a sign you’re highly strung. This often stems from a belief that things won’t be done “right” unless you do them yourself. Start small by delegating minor tasks and gradually work your way up. Remember, perfection isn’t always necessary, and letting go can reduce your stress levels significantly.
7. You’re always in a rush, even when there’s no need to be.
Do you rush through tasks or always feeling like you’re running late, even when you have plenty of time? This constant sense of urgency is common among highly strung people. Try to consciously slow down your movements and speech. Set realistic time frames for tasks and build in buffer time to help you feel less rushed.
8. You have trouble saying “no” to requests or invitations.
Highly strung people often feel compelled to say yes to everything, fearing they’ll let people down if they refuse. This can lead to overcommitment and burnout. Practise saying no in low-stakes situations. Remember, saying no to one thing means saying yes to something else — like your own well-being.
9. You’re a perfectionist in almost everything you do.
While striving for excellence can be positive, perfectionism taken to extremes is a hallmark of being highly strung. If you’re always obsessing over minor details or feeling like nothing you do is ever good enough, it’s time to reassess. Try setting more realistic standards for yourself and celebrate your efforts, not just the outcomes.
10. You have a hard time relaxing, even during downtime.
Do you feel guilty or anxious when you’re not being productive? Highly strung people often struggle to truly relax because they always feel like they should always be doing something. Schedule regular “do nothing” time into your day. Start with short periods and gradually increase them. Remember, rest is crucial for productivity and overall well-being.
11. You’re overly concerned with what other people think of you.
If you’re constantly worrying about other people’s opinions and adjusting your behaviour to please them, you might be highly strung. This preoccupation can be exhausting and prevent you from being your authentic self. Try to focus on your own values and what makes you happy, rather than needing constant approval from other people.
12. You have frequent headaches or muscle tension.
Being highly strung isn’t just a mental state — it can manifest physically too. If you often experience tension headaches, tight shoulders, or a clenched jaw, it might be a sign of chronic stress. Regular exercise, stretching, and relaxation techniques like progressive muscle relaxation can help alleviate these physical symptoms.
13. You’re easily startled by sudden noises or movements.
Do you jump at the slightest unexpected sound or movement? This heightened startle response is common in highly strung people. It’s a sign that your nervous system is on high alert. Practise grounding techniques, like deep breathing or focusing on your senses, to help calm your nervous system and reduce this reactivity.
14. You have trouble making decisions, even about small things.
If you agonise over choices, big or small, you might be highly strung. This indecisiveness often stems from a fear of making the wrong choice. Try setting time limits for decisions based on their importance. For small decisions, go with your gut. For bigger ones, list pros and cons, but remember that there’s rarely a perfect choice.
15. You often feel overwhelmed by your emotions.
Highly strung people tend to experience emotions intensely and may have trouble regulating them. If you find yourself easily swept up in your feelings, whether it’s anger, sadness, or excitement, it’s worth paying attention to. Practise mindfulness techniques to help you observe your emotions without getting carried away by them. Remember, feelings are temporary and don’t define you.
