Not every parent expresses love in big, obvious ways.

Sure, it’s nice (and important!) to hear “I love you” and to be given hugs and cuddles from your caregivers, but sometimes parents show they care in more subtle ways. Maybe it’s the quiet sacrifices they made to ensure you had all the things they never did, or the little lessons they taught you to make you a better human being without you realising it. Either way, they cared about you, even if you’re only realising it now. Even if they weren’t the most overtly affectionate parents ever (or even if they were!), if they did these things, your mum and/or dad really did love you deeply.
1. They always made sure you had food you liked.

Even if money was tight, your parents probably found ways to keep your favourite snack in the house or make a meal you loved on special occasions. It wasn’t just about feeding you; it was about making sure you felt cared for and comforted in even the smallest ways.
Whether it was cutting the crusts off your sandwiches or remembering your exact coffee order as an adult, small food-related gestures showed they were paying attention. They wanted to make sure you always had something familiar and reassuring to enjoy.
2. They let you have bad days without making you explain.

Some days, you just weren’t in the mood to talk, and instead of pushing you to open up, they gave you space. They didn’t force you to justify why you were upset or try to fix everything right away, knowing that sometimes, you just needed time.
Instead, they offered quiet support—maybe putting on your favourite TV show, giving you a little extra kindness, or simply saying, “Let me know if you want to talk.” That kind of patience showed they respected your emotions rather than trying to control them.
3. They taught you the value of manners and kindness.

Maybe they made sure you always said “please” and “thank you,” or they reminded you to hold the door for people. Even when you rolled your eyes as a kid, they knew that these small habits would shape you into someone who treated other people with respect.
They didn’t just care about how you behaved in front of them; they wanted you to be thoughtful and considerate even when they weren’t around. That lesson stayed with you, shaping how you interact with people to this day.
4. They cared about your safety, even when it annoyed you.

There’s a good chance your parents nagged you about wearing a helmet, checking in when you got home, or not talking to strangers. At the time, it felt like they were overreacting, but now you realise it was all about keeping you safe.
They weren’t trying to control you at all; they just knew the world could be unpredictable. Their concern wasn’t about limiting your freedom but making sure you were always looked after, even when they couldn’t be there.
5. They showed up when it mattered.

Whether it was school plays, sports matches, or just helping with homework, they made an effort to be there. Even if they were exhausted from work or had other responsibilities, they still found a way to support you.
Showing up wasn’t about more than just the event itself. In reality, it was about letting you know you mattered to them. Even if they couldn’t always be physically present, they made sure you knew they were cheering you on in whatever way they could.
6. They let you have your independence.

As much as they wanted to protect you, they also knew you had to figure some things out on your own. Maybe they let you make mistakes, even when they knew it wouldn’t end well, just so you could learn from them. It was hard for them to sit back and watch you struggle, but they ultimately knew it was the best thing they could do to build character and resilience.
Instead of controlling every decision, they guided you and let you find your way. When they gave you room to grow, it wasn’t because they didn’t care; it was because they trusted you enough to handle things on your own.
7. They apologised when they got things wrong.

Good parents aren’t perfect, and the ones who truly cared weren’t afraid to admit when they made a mistake. If they snapped at you unfairly or misunderstood a situation, they took the time to say, “I’m sorry” instead of brushing it off.
That might not seem like a big deal, but it taught you that admitting when you’re wrong doesn’t make you weak; it makes you honest. They showed you that respect goes both ways, even between parents and kids.
8. They encouraged your weird hobbies and interests.

Maybe you went through a phase where you were obsessed with dinosaurs, painting, or an obscure band they couldn’t stand, but they still supported it. They bought you books, took you to lessons, or just listened to you ramble about it. Not only that, but they showed genuine interest and excitement right along with you.
They didn’t just see your interests as passing phases; they saw them as part of who you were. And by encouraging them, they made sure you knew that what you loved was important, even if they didn’t always understand it.
9. They made sure you knew how to take care of yourself.

It might not have been fun at the time, but if your parents made sure you knew how to do laundry, cook basic meals, or manage money, they were setting you up for success. Even if you hated chores, you now see how valuable those lessons were.
They didn’t do everything for you because they wanted you to be capable on your own. Their goal wasn’t to make life harder. In reality, it was to prepare you for when they wouldn’t be there to handle everything for you.
10. They let you have opinions.

Even if they didn’t always agree with you, they let you express yourself. They didn’t shut you down just because you had different views or wanted to challenge something they said. They also didn’t write you off just because you were younger and lacked the same life experience.
Instead of forcing their way of thinking onto you, they encouraged discussion, even when it got frustrating. That taught you how to form your own thoughts and stand by them, which is a lesson that lasts a lifetime.
11. They gave you unconditional love, even when you messed up.

No matter how badly you screwed up, they never made you feel like their love was conditional. Even when they were disappointed, upset, or frustrated, their care for you never wavered. They never made you feel like they cared less about you when you did something wrong, and that was invaluable.
That didn’t mean they let things slide, and you definitely faced consequences to your actions. However, they made sure you knew that one bad choice didn’t define you. Their love was never something you had to earn or prove.
12. They made sure you knew you could always call them.

Maybe they had a rule that if you were in trouble, they’d pick you up, no questions asked. Or maybe they just made sure you knew they were always one phone call away, no matter how old you were. They didn’t get angry or shout at you. Instead, they felt honoured that you would come to them when you were struggling.
That kind of safety net wasn’t there to control you. Instead, it was (and probably still is) all about making sure you never felt like you had to face things alone. It was their way of reminding you that they’d always be in your corner.
13. They made sacrifices without making you feel guilty.

Maybe they worked extra hours to afford your school trip or skipped buying things for themselves so you could have what you needed, but they never made it seem like you owed them for it. Sure, they might not have been able (or willing) to spoil you rotten, but you never, ever went without.
They didn’t do it for recognition—they did it because they wanted to. And that kind of selfless love is something that sticks with you long after you’ve grown up.
14. They listened, even when they didn’t have all the answers.

They might not have always known what to say when you were struggling, but they listened anyway. They didn’t dismiss your feelings or make you feel silly for being upset. Instead, they heard you out and then asked what you needed from them to feel supported or to help solve the problem, if possible.
Sometimes, their presence was more comforting than any advice they could give. And knowing they were there for you, even when they couldn’t fix everything, meant everything.
15. They always wanted the best for you.

At the end of the day, whether they got everything right or made plenty of mistakes, their love was always there. They wanted you to be happy, safe, and loved, even if they didn’t always know the perfect way to show it.
That’s what truly matters—not perfection, but effort. And if you see even a few of these signs in your childhood, chances are, your parents cared more than you ever realised.