Ashley Cropper | The Sense Hub

Being able to let things roll off your back is a valuable life skill — and one that many people lack.

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Sure, some things are actually inappropriate, hurtful, and/or offensive, and it makes sense that they would get to a person. However, some people tend to take everything personally, no matter how benign — and you can always spot them because they tend to say these things.

1. “Why are you always criticising me?”

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They often come out with this when they receive well-meaning advice or constructive feedback. People who take things personally tend to interpret any suggestion for improvement as an attack on their character, rather than a helpful tip. Their attitude makes it really hard to offer guidance or support, so people might eventually stop bothering.

2. “You’re just saying that to make me feel bad.”

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When someone takes things personally, they assume everyone has bad intentions, even when that’s not the case. They struggle to separate facts or opinions from personal attacks, and their mindset can create unnecessary tension in relationships. It also makes it hard to have an honest conversation with them.

3. “I bet you’re talking about me behind my back.”

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Those who take things personally often worry excessively about what others think of them. They might assume they’re the topic of conversation when they’re not present, reflecting their own insecurities. This preoccupation can lead to paranoia and distrust, damaging relationships and social interactions.

4. “You didn’t invite me because you don’t like me.”

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Rather than considering practical reasons for not being included, like limited space or an oversight, they jump to the conclusion that it’s a personal slight. Their tendency to assume the worst can lead to self-isolation (and being skipped from the guest list on purpose next time).

5. “I know you’re upset with me.”

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They interpret any change in someone’s mood or behaviour as being directly related to them, even when it’s due to something completely unrelated because, you know, they’re not the centre of the universe. Their self-centred perspective can be exhausting for both them and everyone around them, that’s for sure.

6. “You think I’m not good enough, don’t you?”

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This often comes up when they’re feeling insecure. They project their own self-doubts onto other people, assuming everyone else sees their flaws too. The sad part is that it often becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy!

7. “I can tell you don’t want me here.”

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They misinterpret social cues or general conversation lulls as signs that they’re unwelcome, rather than normal parts of social interaction. Because they’re so hypervigilant about any sign of rejection, they tend to experience a lot of social anxiety, and that’s a real shame.

8. “You’re laughing at me, aren’t you?”

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When other people are having fun or laughing, they might assume they’re the butt of the joke, even when the laughter has nothing to do with them. Their tendency to feel targeted can make playful social situations stressful and unenjoyable for them (and other people, frankly).

9. “I know you think I’m stupid for saying that.”

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After sharing an idea or opinion, they might immediately assume everyone is judging them negatively, rather than simply considering their point of view. This fear of judgement can stifle their willingness to contribute to discussions or share their thoughts openly.

10. “You’re just trying to make me look bad.”

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In competitive situations or disagreements, they assume everyone is intentionally trying to undermine them, rather than simply pursuing their own goals or expressing different views. They have an adversarial mindset that can make collaboration and teamwork challenging, and that’s putting it lightly.

11. “I’m sure you blame me for what happened.”

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When things go wrong, they’re quick to assume other people are holding them responsible, even if the situation was beyond anyone’s control. They have a tendency to take on undue blame, which can lead to excessive stress and anxiety.

12. “You don’t care about my feelings.”

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If someone disagrees with them or doesn’t immediately validate their emotions, they might interpret this as a lack of care or empathy, rather than a different perspective. Their all-or-nothing thinking about other people’s care can put a strain on relationships and lead to feelings of isolation.

13. “I know you think I’m overreacting.”

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They might say this defensively when expressing strong emotions, assuming everyone is judging their reactions rather than trying to understand or support them. Their pre-emptive defensiveness keeps them from getting genuine support and understanding from other people.

14. “You’re just saying that to be nice.”

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When they get compliments or positive feedback, they can never just take it at face value — they assume it’s insincere or given out of pity. Unfortunately, their inability to accept praise can lower their self-esteem and make it hard for other people to express genuine appreciation.

15. “I can tell you don’t respect me.”

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People to take everything personally usually interpret normal disagreements or differences of opinion as signs of disrespect, rather than natural aspects of human interaction. You can’t have a healthy debate with or give constructive criticism to someone like that.

16. “You’re comparing me to other people, aren’t you?”

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When people talk about others’ achievements or positive attributes, those who take things personally might assume it’s a roundabout way of pointing out their own shortcomings. No wonder they feel so inadequate all the time!

17. “I know you wish I was more like…”

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They constantly compare themselves to other people, assuming that people in their life wish they were different or more like someone else, rather than appreciating them for who they are. This belief can create a constant pressure to change or be someone they’re not, leading to stress and a lack of self-acceptance.