We all know self-care is important, right? Bubble baths, face masks, the occasional massage… But true self-care goes deeper than that. It’s about the less glamorous habits and choices that truly impact your physical and mental well-being. Problem is, a lot of these essential self-care behaviors are easy to neglect.
1. You don’t prioritize sleep.
Skimping on sleep to binge another episode, squeeze in work, or scroll social media is tempting. But consistently getting less than your body needs is a recipe for burnout. Sleep is vital for your physical health, cognitive function, and emotional regulation. When you’re sleep-deprived, everything feels harder and your stress levels skyrocket.
2. You’re chronically dehydrated.
Think you drink enough water? Most of us don’t — up to 80% of us, per Garmin. Dehydration messes with your energy levels, mood, focus – even your skin! It seems so simple, but make a conscious effort to up your water intake. Carry a water bottle, set reminders to sip, and notice how much better you feel when you’re properly hydrated.
3. You keep putting off important tasks and appointments.
That looming work project, the dentist appointment you need to schedule…. Procrastination is self-sabotage. Putting off tasks you know you need to do creates a constant low-level anxiety that saps your energy. Break big tasks into smaller ones, set deadlines, and reward yourself for getting it done – you’ll feel so much better!
4. You say “yes” when you really mean “no.”
Do you wind up overcommitted, exhausted, and resentful because you can’t say no? People-pleasing is a form of self-neglect. It means prioritizing everyone else’s needs above your own. Learn to politely but firmly say no when you need to. It’s okay to set boundaries to protect your time and energy.
5. You don’t move your body enough.
Physical activity isn’t just about weight loss, it’s crucial for your health overall. It reduces stress, boosts your mood, improves sleep, and gives you more energy. You don’t have to become a gym rat. Find something you enjoy – walks, dancing, yoga – and make it a regular habit. Your body will thank you!
6. You don’t manage your stress effectively.
Stress is inevitable, but how you handle it makes all the difference. If you tend to bottle things up, turn to unhealthy coping mechanisms, or let stress run your life, it’s time to develop better tools. Exercise, mindfulness, journaling, therapy, or simply making time to do something you enjoy can all help manage stress before it wreaks havoc on your well-being.
7. You neglect your close relationships.
Nurturing strong, healthy relationships is vital to your emotional and mental health, but it takes effort! When life gets busy, it’s easy to let friendships slide or put your partner on the backburner. Make time for quality connection, communication, and showing the people you love that they matter to you.
8. You compare yourself to other people non-stop.
Endless social media scrolling is a recipe for feeling bad about yourself. That curated highlight reel isn’t real life! Focus on your own journey and goals. Limit your social media time, unfollow accounts that stir up negativity, and practice gratitude. Comparison is the thief of joy and a serious self-care sabotage.
9. You don’t make time for fun.
When did you last do something solely because it makes you happy? Life can’t be all work and responsibilities. Incorporating play into your life boosts your mood, relieves stress, and helps you feel more fulfilled overall, per PsychCentral. Make time for hobbies, creative pursuits, or simply hanging out with people who make you laugh.
10. You eat a nutrient-poor diet.
Yes, those chips are tasty, but consistently fueling your body with junk food will eventually make you feel terrible. Your diet impacts your energy levels, mood, and overall health. Focus on more whole foods, fruits, vegetables, and limiting processed, sugary stuff. It’s not about perfection, it’s about giving your body the good stuff it needs.
11. You ignore your inner critic.
That voice in your head that tells you you’re not good enough, not smart enough, not worthy? We all have one, but some of us let it take the wheel. Learn to recognize your inner critic’s voice, challenge those negative thoughts, and practice self-compassion. How you talk to yourself matters!
12. You skimp on self-reflection.
When was the last time you sat with yourself and reflected on how you’re doing? Taking time to check in with your emotions, thoughts, and needs allows you to course-correct. Journaling, therapy, or simply making time for quiet reflection can be powerful self-care tools.
13. You neglect your spiritual side (however you define it).
Whether it’s traditional faith practices, spending time in nature, meditation, or any activity that gives you a sense of connection and meaning, nurturing your spiritual side is important. It helps you tap into something bigger than yourself, providing comfort and perspective during challenging times.
14. You avoid asking for help when you need it.
We’re often told that strength means going it alone. The truth is, asking for help when you’re struggling is one of the bravest things you can do. Whether it’s reaching out to a friend, therapist, or joining a support group, admitting you need support empowers you to overcome challenges instead of being weighed down by them.
15. You try to numb your emotions instead of processing them.
Turning to substances, overeating, or excessive distractions to avoid difficult emotions is tempting. Numbing works temporarily, but ultimately does more harm than good. Learning to acknowledge, process, and express your emotions in healthy ways is a key part of taking care of yourself.
16. You engage in negative self-talk.
Would you say the things you tell yourself to a friend? If not, it’s time for an upgrade. Become aware of the harsh things you tell yourself—stop beating yourself up, and practice speaking to yourself with the same kindness and understanding you’d give a loved one.
17. You don’t define your own self-care.
Self-care looks different for everyone. What makes one person feel nourished and replenished might feel dull or draining for someone else. Don’t get caught up in what you should be doing. Experiment, be honest with yourself about what works and what doesn’t, and design a self-care routine that truly supports your well-being.
