Everyone gets angry from time to time—it’s a normal human emotion.

The problem is that some people find it really hard to keep their temper in check, and when they can’t, it can cause a lot of damage to their relationships, careers, and even their own mental and physical health. They lack the skills to manage their emotions in a healthy way, so they often end up making everything worse. If someone consistently reacts with outbursts, passive aggressiveness, or explosive frustration, they might have major anger issues. You’ll know for sure because these experiences are pretty common for them.
1. They overreact to small inconveniences.

People who lack self-control when it comes to their anger tend to magnify even the smallest issues. A minor delay, a simple mistake, or an unexpected inconvenience can send them into a full-blown rage and ruin their entire day. It makes them really hard to be around because you never know what might set them off. While most people would draw the line at vague annoyances, they fly off the handle and find it really hard to come back down to earth.
2. They lash out at the wrong people.

When someone can’t control their anger, they often take it out on the wrong person, snapping at family, friends, or co-workers who had nothing to do with the situation. Instead of dealing with the actual source of their frustration, they redirect it onto people who happen to be nearby. This makes relationships tense and unpredictable, as those around them never know when they’ll be on the receiving end of an unfair outburst.
3. They hold petty grudges for way too long.

Rather than letting go of anger after an argument or disagreement, they hold onto it and let it build. They replay fights in their heads, refuse to move on, and sometimes even bring up old conflicts long after they should have been resolved. That kind of behaviour makes it hard to have a healthy relationship with them because any small disagreement could turn into a long-term resentment that never truly gets settled.
4. They slam doors, throw things, or punch walls.

Some people don’t always lash out with words, but their anger shows up in their actions. Slamming doors, throwing objects, or hitting things are all common behaviours in someone who doesn’t know how to manage their frustration. Even if they’re not directly hurting someone, these aggressive reactions create a tense and intimidating environment, making the people around them feel unsafe or on edge.
5. They get defensive over even minor criticism.

People with poor anger control often struggle to take any kind of feedback without reacting negatively. Even the most well-intended suggestion can make them snap, argue, or get overly defensive. Instead of listening and considering what’s being said, they see any form of criticism as a personal attack. That makes it really hard to have open and honest conversations with them because people start walking on eggshells to avoid setting them off.
6. They use sarcasm to mask their frustration.

Not all anger is loud—some people express it through cutting remarks, passive-aggressive comments, or sarcastic jokes that feel more like insults. That allows them to vent their frustration while pretending they’re “just joking.” Even though they may act like it’s harmless, their words often make people uncomfortable. After a while, that behaviour pushes people away because no one likes to feel like they’re constantly being criticised, even in a “playful” way.
7. They struggle to let anyone else have the last word.

For these people, arguments don’t just end when they should. They always feel the need to have the last word, even if it means dragging things out unnecessarily. They might bring up extra points, throw in personal jabs, or refuse to walk away until they feel like they’ve “won.” It makes disagreements especially exhausting, as they turn into drawn-out battles rather than productive conversations.
8. They complain about “idiots” constantly.

People with poor anger control often have a low tolerance for anyone who doesn’t meet their standards. They regularly vent about how “stupid” everyone else is—drivers, co-workers, customer service reps, or even strangers who are just minding their own business. They act like they’re the only competent person around and that everyone else is out to annoy them. Of course, that makes them come across as negative and unpleasant, as they always seem frustrated with the world.
9. They refuse to apologise when they’re in the wrong.

A major sign of someone who struggles with their anger is their inability to say, “I’m sorry.” Even when they know they’ve overreacted or hurt someone, they refuse to acknowledge it. Instead, they justify their behaviour, shift the blame, or wait for the other person to “get over it.” Their lack of accountability damages relationships, as people eventually get tired of dealing with someone who never owns up to their mistakes.
10. They escalate situations instead of de-escalating.

When things get tense, some people naturally try to calm the situation down, but not people with bad tempers. Instead of looking for ways to defuse and calm an issue, they lean into it, making it worse than it has to be. They might raise their voice, throw out accusations, or refuse to back down, turning a small disagreement into a full-scale argument. Obviously, that makes it nearly impossible to have productive conversations with them, as even simple issues can quickly spiral out of control.
11. They struggle to let go of control.

Many people who can’t manage their anger well also have control issues. When things don’t go their way, they react with frustration instead of flexibility. Rather than adjusting to changes or finding solutions, they get angry at the situation—or worse, at the people involved. Their inability to go with the flow can make them difficult to work with or be around.
12. They take absolutely everything personally.

Even when something isn’t directed at them, they assume the worst and react accordingly. A simple comment or a neutral action can trigger an outsized reaction because they always feel like they’re being criticised or disrespected. Instead of giving people the benefit of the doubt, they jump to conclusions and react emotionally. It makes socialising with them exhausting, as people feel like they have to carefully choose their words to avoid setting them off.
13. They turn to substances to cope with anger.

Instead of addressing their anger in a healthy way, some people turn to alcohol, drugs, or other coping mechanisms to deal with their emotions. While they might claim it helps them relax, in reality, it often makes their anger issues worse.
Substance use can lower inhibitions, making them more prone to angry outbursts. It also prevents them from actually working on their emotional regulation skills, creating a cycle where they never truly deal with their anger in a constructive way.
14. They don’t realise the impact of their behaviour.

Perhaps the biggest issue with these people is that they don’t see themselves as the problem. They believe their reactions are justified and that other people are overreacting to their outbursts.
Because of this, they rarely try to change or improve, which makes relationships with them pretty frustrating. Until they recognise how their behaviour affects those around them, they’ll continue to struggle with the same patterns of anger, frustration, and conflict.